Contributor: Adil Lifestyle Writer, loveysigns.com,
It’s no secret. Society as a whole has evolved a lot and so are the dating rules. Rules that were practiced 10 years ago are no longer acceptable today. In this modern era, a second date isn’t even a possibility without being dined, wined and charmed by dates. It seems as though, the role of men hasn’t changed much, they are still supposed to act like a gentleman on a date. However, it appears like things have changed for women.
Take paying for the bill for, example, typically men were taught to pay for it as a sign of courtship but now more than ever women are paying the bill or split it. This could be for a number of reasons like she wants to make a clear yet subtle hint if she paid for her half it is not a date or she wants to show her independence. This can be a whole other blog post but today I want to focus on women and dating in today’s modern era.
7 Modern Dating Rules Every Modern Woman Should Follow According To A Man
- Be Well-Dressed
This one is no secret to anyone.
No matter how advance dating gets, “Dress to Impress” is the rule that will always remain on top.
Although what you wear depends on where your reservations are. But there are a few things you should keep in mind.
If you are taking the time to go the date try and put time into you as well, by putting on your makeup, your hair and accessorize yourself well. Applying some perfume & deodorant wouldn’t be a bad idea either. Donning a skirt that shows your legs or a top that shows off your assets is completely fine. But don’t wear anything that suggests you are going clubbing right after the date.
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- Be on Time
Punctuality is an attribute that almost everyone finds appreciable. Hence, making an effort to be on time is highly admirable.
Plan the occasion in advance. Figure out how much time you will need to dress up and what time you will leave and then make sure you stick to the schedule.
However, if something comes up and you get late for your date don’t forget to apologize for it. You can even make it up by being a delightful date.
A Pro Tip: Arriving early than the specified time is highly recommended. It will help you ease up your stress and calm your nerves before your date arrives.
- Be a Good Listener
If you think contributing to the conversation is important than you are wrong.
Listening is as important as speaking. Especially if you are on a date.
Listen carefully to your date when he is telling something and don’t zone out. Even if the conversation is really boring, you can use your skills to direct the conversation towards something that is more interesting.
Remember:
It’s helpful to make up some questions to ask your date beforehand so that you can get to know them better. Here are the Best 20 Questions to Ask On The First Date.
Make some mental note of points during the conversation so that you can bring them up later. This will surely give your date an idea that you were listening to them.
- Be Conscious About Mentioning Past Relationships
Talking about exes on the very first date is a BIG NO!
Never think of talking about ex, marriage or kids. Even if you had a strong past relationship, the first date is not a platform to tell everything.
Why?
Because they will probably become scared and you won’t have an idea where this all went wrong.
Unless they bring these topics up, you should never mention these things. And when they do ask you about it, make sure to answer them generically instead of giving away too many details.
‘Marrying with the right person at the right time’ would be a good generic answer to tackle marriage questions and about exes you could simply say something funny like ‘They are all in the past otherwise this date won’t be happening.’
If this date goes well, you will have a lot of other times to discuss these topics so talking about it on a first date is not necessary.
See These 20 Signs That You’re Over Your Ex.
- Be Open-Minded
Dating is all about meeting a new person and get to know them. In this scenario, keeping an open mind is essential.
Since people are different, they have their own opinions, cultural and religious beliefs. Understanding their background is the need of the time. As mentioned, listening to their experiences is a key for a smooth date.
Here’s the deal:
If you strongly disagree with their point of views, make sure you don’t lose your temper right away. Give them time to justify their opinions, and if they fail to do so, then you have the choice to not to see them again.
- Be a Little Witty
Men like a sense of humor.
Every man believes a sense of humor is pretty essential for a relationship and thus having a girl who is humorous and witty is all they need. Furthermore, being sharp and quick-witted is expected from the modern women too.
Keep in mind:
When you are on a date, and there is a long awkward silence, don’t hesitate to crack a joke to bring things back to normal. It will boost up the comfort level and will give your date an impression that you really are a fun person to be with.
- Be Sure Not to Go All Out
Even though it is a modern era and women are not sexually nervous than they were before, still they have to keep the distance, especially on the first date.
Teasing him a little and hold out on sex is the correct way to do it. Making him want you more is the approach that a woman should always adapt.
Do not go all out very early. Give it time and analyze the things how it goes. If he is serious, he will wait. And if he does, he is surely a guy you should consider going out with.
Here are the 10 Ways To Know If He Actually Likes You Or Just Using You For Sex
The bottom-line?
No matter what the scenario is, how long have you been out of this dating scene, who the other person is, just remember to be yourself. The next time you head out on a date, keep these dating rules in mind. This will help you keep up with the dating etiquettes of this modern era.
Contributor Bio:
Adil is a lifestyle writer, music-lover, and a Sagittarius. He enjoys writing about dating hacks, relationship tips, and love advice. You can follow more of his work at http://loveysigns.com, Twitter and Facebook.
