The Plus One

Wedding etiquette 101: The Plus One

(Yup caught this sucker and I wasn’t even standing on the dance floor!)

So I’m at the age now, where most of my friends are getting married and having babies, and I am over here trying to get abs, run my own company and decide what bottle of wine goes best with Nutella. (A Pinot or a deep red?!) It really brings out the flavors of hazelnuts and loneliness. JUST SAYING!

This summer, a handful of my friends are getting married, so instead of spending my summers alone, with my best friends MARG and Rita, I am carefully planning my best Vince Vaughn wedding crasher moves. “Let’s be from Vermont and own a maple syrup conglomerate.” Works like a charm. 😉

Some of my friends have been kind enough to extend the plus one for their weddings. Look it is definitely a nice gesture, but when you’re single and trying to figure out between the fish, steak, or vegan options you forget to really think about who you would want to bring to split a piece of wedding cake with…and who are we kidding? We don’t split our pieces of cake!

Thinking of my ideal “plus 1” I have worked out what I think would be the perfect do’s and don’ts when inviting someone as your date to a wedding.

THE DON’TS:

A hook up buddy: This is never a good idea, it might seem like a good idea at the time, but weddings bring up all different kind of emotions, it inevitable, someone will or does care for the other person just a little bit more. If it’s you, don’t put yourself in this situation!
Your guy best friend- Not always but most of the time, a guy best friend isn’t really a “friend” at all. He is silently and patiently waiting for you to realize that he is the one you should be walking down the aisle to! DON’T blur the lines!
Your “is it an open bar friend?”: We all have the one friend, you have put yourself through enough already, you don’t need to babysit anyone!
A guy, who you lost contact with: The guy you went out with on a couple of dates but nothing ever came of it. Don’t open this can of worms, if he isn’t already dating someone else, he probably thinks you are really interested this time or you seem like an easy lay. I am sorry but it’s true, guys think like that!
Your EX!: Need we say more? Look, you might both already be invited to the same wedding (this is actually happening to me.) Depending on where you two stand, you could possibly make this work but remember that this day is not about you or your ex it is about your friends!

DO:

Best Friend: This is assuming you have at least one best friend who is a girl. You two do everything together anyways why not have another memory in

Friend who is into the opposite sex: This is always a save bet, there is no crossed feelings or missed signals. You two can enjoy the night dancing to I’ll Be by Edwan Mccain without wondering if they’re pulling you in close to kiss you or get that piece of spinach out of your teeth.

Guy you have been seeing: Depending where are in your relationship, this can be a tricky one, go into it knowing that guys might see this invitation a little bit differently than you do. Be honest, up front.

YOURSELF: There is no shame in this game, enjoy yourself, be the life of the party. Trust me the hot cousin once removed, will ask you to dance once he see you enjoying dancing on the dance floor rather than drowning your sorrows at the bar!