Tips On How To Better Communicate In A Relationship


I am not here to say that I have all the answers in the world when it comes to relationships but boy have I learned A LOT! I love being able to openly share my experiences with you & hearing yours as well. A true definition of modern day girlfriends, connecting, inspiring and empowering one another!

Communication is a powerful thing not only in friendships but relationships as well. Whether it is a friend or your significant other trying to get your point across can seemingly be tricky. Through my own experiences I have narrowed it down to 6 go to “tools” to help navigate me through a conversation.

  • Never say YOU made me feel this way: Rather say the situation made me feel or I felt this way when this happened “because”. Starting off the conversation by  placing the blame on your partner triggers the need to become defensive. This can create a higher sense of stress and anger during the conversation and can make the problem even bigger than when it started.
  • Acknowledge their position: A relationship is a two way street, you have to be willing to hear the other person out whether you agree with them or not.
  • Count to 10: If you feel you can’t find the words or you feel yourself getting angry, tell your partner you need to step away and will come back when you have composed yourself. You don’t want to react from anger but from a love stand point. Step away and count to ten. Remember anger is best served up cold.
  • Learn your love language: In a relationship you not only learn how the person brushes their teeth or chomps their food, you also how to speak with them in mind. We all have emotional triggers if we take the time to learn not only our own but our partners. We will be saving everyone involved a huge headache and frustration.
  • Don’t Brush It off: If you are upset or something is bothering you and you can’t seem to shake the feeling don’t brush it under the rug. It will build resentment and anger. Make sure you take the  time to know exactly what is bothering you so you can communicate it openly, freely and without anger.
  • Communicate, communicate, communicate!: Communication is one of the most important factors of a relationship, don’t wait to talk to your partner when it’s too late and your already angry. It is important to stay connected to each other physically, emotionally and verbally. Silence is the loudest parting word you will ever say!

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