Dating in Social Media Age
In today’s generation we are so connected that we are disconnected. There is that infamous quote “Relationships are harder in today’s social media society, face to face conversations are now texts, arguments have now become phone calls and your emotional feelings have become subliminal messages online.”
In the generation of “now” we tend to strive for immediate response, ” he always has his phone, why is he not answering.” The sense of being so connected leaves us to assume that if you don’t get that immediate response he is either with someone else or hiding something from you or maybe he just doesn’t want to talk.
When at the end of the day most likely he was to busy WORKING!
That just covers texting, we haven’t even begun to talk about Twitter, Facebook or Instagram! Social media was created as way for us all to connect, to get that fast look into someone’s life, what job they have, what they’re wearing, what they’re doing or who they’re dating! Which is great in theory but what happens when it goes a little to far, let’s discuss the “Facebook Diary Post”
If you have a problem in your relationship, it might be safe to say that people on your Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter, don’t really care. Your Facebook news feed is not your journal, and it can make friends feel uncomfortable. If you need to vent about it to your best friend, call them or go see them-just don’t go changing your “Facebook statuses”.
I have a confession to make: my friends call me the online detective, working in social media consulting before creating The Modern Day Girlfriend, there was nothing online that I couldn’t find! Yes, ex boyfriends beware, things you think I have NO idea about, I found out a LONG time ago! In my defense, it really isn’t my fault! People tend to share more information than they need!
It’s like your social media presence is your online dating resume. Have you ever met a someone and later that night they have already found you on Instagram or Facebook? Ever have a friend try to set you up and the person friend requests you before you even meet? You go rushing through your post to make sure that you look really cute in pictures and you don’t sound too needy or too wild! It’s like they judge you before they even meet you.
People have begun using social media as a way of “revenge” and wanting that ex to see how happy you are without them by posting a picture out having fun! Your heart is broken so you post a really sad quote that shows how strong you are yet yearn for that forever love again! Look we aren’t saying don’t express your emotions, if you need to get them out, by all means get them out. Just remember what you put on the Internet stays forever, emotions in time, come and go!
On a side note, when you are on a date or spending time with the person you care about, DON’T be on your phone checking out Instagram, Twitter or Facebook, talk to one another, do something together. It makes the person you are with feellike the person on the other end of your phone or computer is more important. Granted, yes there are times when being on your computer is totally acceptable but remember the Internet will always be there people won’t.
