The Ex With The Birthday Text: Does He Want Sex?
Birthdays can be a tricky thing not only because they represent a yearly reminder that you are getting older, but also because the Internet and mobile devices offer more ways to get a hold of someone than ever before, which allows people to send you birthday wishes with little to no effort. Gone are the days of the hand written letter, invitations by mail, or the occasional phone call. Millennials can now expect to receive a simple “ Happy Birthday” text, or a Facebook reminder to write a congratulatory post on someone’s wall. Both of these modern methods of wishing someone a Happy Birthday take the personal touch out of a friendly gesture. With more ways than one to wish someone a Happy Birthday today, what happens when the one person you didn’t expect to contact you decides to reach out?
Let me know if you have been in this situation before. You’re either getting ready with your friends, or you are already out celebrating growing another year older. You are feeling great because you are becoming more of an adult than you already are (WHOOPIE!). Basking in the glow of your new responsibilities, you are enjoying a chilled shot of your favorite tequila from the cute bartender. Suddenly, your phone vibrates and you check it. Instantly, your heart drops because it’s your ex. You stare at the phone for a moment longer and think this can’t be true! Sure enough, you open the notification and BOOM, he is wishing you Happy Birthday. WHAT NOW?!
Well, it really depends on how you choose to handle it. Ask yourself these questions before you respond if you choose to:
- Will it ruin my night?
- Can your response wait till tomorrow?
- Am I responding with a sound mind or is Don Julio speaking for me?
- Does it really matter?
Whatever the case may be, whether he is trying to rekindle an old flame, just being kind, or knows you will be drunk and want to have sex, your birthday is not about him or your past relationship. Enjoy your day with the people that are still in your life and showed up to celebrate you! Oo ya HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
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Hello.
Im actually a guy. My ex girlfriend broke up with me about a year ago. We’ve pretty much have had no contact since then. Out of the blue I get a HBD text from her this morning.
I don’t know how to respond, since I don’t know what her intentions are with that text. I need advice. I haven’t responded yet. My heart also stopped when I looked at my phone. Just like what I read in the article lol.
We were together for 7 years for the record.
Hi Dee, first thank you for taking the time to read the article and to comment. I am sorry for your heartbreak, it is never easy. I hope you have found a little comfort or guidance in the post. Every relationship is different but my rule of thumb has always been if you don’t know what to say don’t respond until you do. I hope that helps! Sending you good thoughts!
Hello,
I had an ex girlfriend leave me for another man 4 months ago, she never told me the truth and tried to get away with it.
The truth did come out a month or so after she left…I have not been in contact with her since. I never sent her a birthday wish 2 months after the split.
She sent me a birthday text today from her facebook account which shows her new boyfriend and her in loving arms..I feel she could have had a little more tact and sympathy considering the pain she put me though in this betrayal.
I’m not sure whether I want to respond at at all, alternatively I would say a simple “thanks”.
I don’t think she deserves my time and though over it, which is exactly where my energy is at right now.
I don’t want to respond because I think she has no backbone breaking this 4 year relationship the way she did and flaunting her new guy to all her friends and family before she told me anything (which she still hasn’t done).
Please help!! Any advice would be most welcome.
HI! I AM SO SORRY TO HEAR THAT. YOU SEEM TO BE HANDLING IT JUST FINE ON YOUR OWN! I MYSELF NEVER RESPOND TO SOMETHING FROM ANGER OR HURT BUT A PLACE OF UNDERSTANDING MY EMOTIONS SO I CAN BEST COMMUNICATE HOW THE SITUATION MADE ME FEEL IF I EVEN FEEL IT IS WORTH MY TIME. ALLOWING YOURSELF SPACE & TIME TO HEAL AND UNDERSTAND YOUR EMOTIONS IS A GREAT WAY TO HELP YOUR HEART! I HOPE THIS HELPS.
Hi,
I love your article. I had broken up with my ex in January and we’ve been together for an exact year. But New year’s day he decided he wanted us to have space and we broke up shortly after. and we’ve had few awkward convos since then. He left me for another girl and then wanted to see if we could still be friends and I said I needed to heal. Two weeks ago, end of February he started a conversation saying that he wanted us to be friends and wanted to reassure me that it would be cool and his new gf would be ok about it. He said I’m sorry that I hurt you, and I did plan to give you something on your bday, but my new Gf’s bday is on the same day as yours. I said I really didn’t expect anything, being that we aren’t really friends and you hurt me. said I don’t want to be hurt and blocked him on Facebook, but kept him on Instagram since he’s rarely on there. March comes, and he DMs on Instagram Happy Birthday (my name). I didn’t reply, because I was focusing on having a good day. Why do you think he texted me happy bday still?