By the time you start reading this, you might be confused as to why you still haven’t found someone in the online dating platform that you’re on. Frankly speaking, online dating is quite hard because the competition is very high or it might be because of your profile.
There are so many people out there who look better than you and are more successful than you, but don’t let all the insecurities eat you up. Every person is unique in their own way and there’s a huge chance that you’re just not doing online dating the right way.
People who have succeeded in online dating have their own tricks and you deserve to know them. So read this up until the end to get the success you want, enlighten your broken heart and unleash your inner confidence.
5 Reasons Why You Still Haven’t Succeeded At Online Dating
1.You cannot wait
Dating takes time whether if it’s online or offline. Even though you have met a lot of single people in every dating site you’re on, you still haven’t found that connection and compatibility you are looking for in a match.
You need to be patient. There might be instances where you like someone and they don’t return your feelings or someone may like you and you just want them as a friend. Dating is not the same as shopping where you will automatically get what you want as long as you have the money.
Don’t get too excited and sign up on multiple dating websites. This will only give you a hard time in finding that special someone since you would be overwhelmed with all the people you’ll meet. Just stick to one dating platform that has lots of members. Reach out to every member who caught your eye and make sure your messages are worth replying to. You have a lot of competition, so be sure to stand out.
Just be patient, work hard, and there will be someone who’s just waiting for someone like you.
2.Your dating profile is ugly
A lot of users will not just look into your photos but look into your bio as well. By reading your profile description, they will know if you are the person they are looking for and it will also show what kind of person you are.
State all the highlights about yourself and tell them your interests/hobbies so it will be easier for them to connect with you.
Most users would like to chat a person whose dating profile is complete. You need to make sure that your profile at least has a couple of photos, a good profile bio, and a complete answer to all the personality questions. This way, you will get a higher chance of meeting the right person for you in a shorter time. Take note that being positive in your profile will also give you an edge over others.
3.You use bad photos
Always remember that first impression lasts. A good picture will give you a lot of messages and increase your number of interests.
Avoid posting pictures where you are wearing sunglasses, selfies with too many filters, a picture of you five or so years ago, or where you’re drinking alcohol and partying. Make sure to post at least 5 current pictures of you smiling, a full body shot, a picture with your pet(if you have one), with your friends, and doing your favorite hobby.
4.You don’t know what you want
What kind of relationship do you want?
What are your preferences when it comes to personalities?
What age bracket are you trying to date?
These are questions that you need to ask yourself before you go with online dating. Otherwise, it will only give you a horrendous experience and waste a lot of time if you still haven’t figured everything out. Every person has their own preferences, so what are yours?
There are different kinds of relationships. There are serious relationships, open relationships, and hookups. There are also different kinds of personalities that might match with yours or not. It’s important to also choose the right age of the person you are looking for. In some cases, there are others who date people that are ten years younger/older than them. This huge age gap has caused them problems because their personalities, tastes, and values are very different.
5.You’re pretentious
Pretending to be someone you are not may not seem to work out in every relationship. It will only give false hopes to the person you are trying to connect with. You may be tagged as a scammer with that doing.
It is best that you will be honest as early as possible so you will not hurt anybody’s feelings and you will gain the trust of every person you will meet online. No matter what you look like and who you are, if the person really likes you they will stick with you until the end. So just be yourself because a successful dating experience is when you finally met someone who is the same as you.
By this time you already know what part of your online dating experience you are lacking on. Make a list of what you need to do next time. Be assured that once you have found your perfect match, do not forget to ask for their number or connect with them on social media so you will still continue to communicate with them outside the dating site. If things work out, go ahead and plan the first date.
Have you tried online dating? What is your take on it?
Contributor Jane Song of Rometic Limited
“Jane Song works in Marketing and has a Bachelor’s Degree in Business Administration. Through writing, she can escape from the real world and express her inner self. She loves to cook and eat while dancing with her favorite music.”
