When Ghosting Can Be Used For Good.
Dating in the digital age can be a very tangled web to weave from following your ex on Snapchat to knowing your Bumble date’s location before you even decided on a place to meet. Social media and our mobile phones have made it extremely easy for us to be connected with one another whether we like it or not.
In previous posts here at The Modern Day Girlfriend, I have spoken about how ghosting or being ghosted by someone, which is the act of cutting off all communication with another person by phone, social media outlets, etc without any warning can be heartbreaking to most but can something seemingly hurtful actually be used for good?
Today I am going to get to the bottom of it as well as share how ghosting done respectfully can actually be used for good. Want to know why or how, below I share with you my top 4 reasons why ghosting isn’t as bad as you think!
4 Reasons When Ghosting Can Be Used For Good.
On A Dating App:
Why would you ghost someone you met over a dating app seems a little redundant, no? You sign up for the app to meet people right but what if you have already met someone offline, you’re just plain busy, the guy you connected with is creeping you out or you are just plain over it? There is no harm in just letting the conversations go if you aren’t invested.
When They Slide Into Your DM’s ( Direct Messages)
Typically no one would be sliding into your DM’s if you knew them already, granted friends might send you funny memes to your inbox but that’s not what I am talking about here. I am talking about a complete stranger writing you via your direct messages. Do not feel bad if you don’t respond to this person, you don’t owe them anything and if you don’t want to write them back you have every right not to!
When You’re Obviously Not InTo It:
Have you already made it clear you don’t like them in that way or you just aren’t looking to date anyone right now? If so don’t feel bad with just cutting off communication with this person. They will get the hint sooner or later if you have made it clear to them and trust me sometimes silence is the loudest parting word you will ever say.
A Friend Of An Ex:
Look I know sometimes after a break up you want to stay friends with an ex’s friends not actually because you liked hanging out with that particular friend or cared about them more than that but because you want that direct line to your ex’s life. Don’t do it! Not only would this be a sticky situation for that friend and your ex if you and the friend actually did care about each other but if you don’t feel the same way this friend does you might want to cut it off before it begins. It will be better for everyone involved to just not respond or be upfront and tell them it’s too close for comfort and you don’t see it working. Honesty is the best policy with this one!
Have you ever ghosted someone or been ghosted, comment below.
