Digital Dating: How To Go From Messaging To Meeting.
In the world of digital dating, how do you go from messaging to meeting? You both swiped right, you’ve been talking, you’ve read my four ways of not getting cat-fished, and now you two want to meet. Here are some steps I have taken to secure an easy and fun date.
FIND SOMETHING IN COMMON:
Look at his pictures and see if he is holding a dog, wearing a hat with his favorite sports team on it, or if he is hiking in the woods. Use what you see to start asking him about himself, especially if you are on an app like Bumble, where the woman has to initiate the conversation. Like the saying goes, “A picture is worth a thousand words.”
KEEP THE QUESTIONS SHORT:
In a society where we are so use to communicating over text messaging, we might feel more inclined to keep a conversation going strictly through texts. It’s the safer, less intimidating way of getting to know someone these days. Undoubtedly, texting does have its pros and cons, but if you really are interested in getting to know this guy, keep your questions and your answers short and to a minimum. You want to leave something to talk about on the first date. For example, respond to one of his questions by saying, “that’s a better story told, not texted.” Check to see if he gets the hint and asks you to hear the story over a few drinks. Remember, some guys will keep a long conversation going over messaging. Some guys don’t even care about meeting up, they just like playing the game online, so it is ok to say no to an over extended messaging relationship.
KEEP IT LIGHT:
Along with keeping the questions short, keep the conversation light. Don’t invest too much into a guy on a dating app before meeting him. Just because you two have found each other attractive and seemingly get along doesn’t mean either of you owe each other anything. Remain open hearted, it is hard to know what the person on the other side of the computer or smart phone is looking for until you meet them.
SCHEDULE A DATE.
Now it is go time, you have gone from messaging to meeting. I would suggest for the first date, depending on your comfort level, to schedule something easy like coffee or drinks, which allows you the freedom to cut it short or keep it going.
How do you go from messaging to meeting?
T: Moderndaygf
